What is really powerful is that it is better than who you were in the past.
A person will meet a lot of people in his life.
some people are mediocre but do not show their splendor, some people are full of jewelry but arrogant, and some people do not show their edge.
pick up the pen and write a book, write a "person", but do not want to, herringbone is easy to write, difficult to do; herringbone is easy to read, difficult to understand!
A thousand people have a thousand faces, but their hearts are very different.
when people first get to know each other, it is always hard to give up their friendships, but only after they have been together for a long time will their shortcomings be gradually exposed.
if you want to really know a person, you need to start from these five levels: appearance, talent, character, kindness, and character.
compare yourself with yourself, do things seriously and behave upright.
begins with appearance
as the saying goes, people should not be judged by their appearance, and the sea water should not be measured.
but it is undeniable that a good image can bring you more opportunities.
after all, who wants to deal with a slovenly, untidy person?
never expect a second chance to change a person's first impression.
someone has done such a psychological experiment:
psychologists showed passers-by a group of photos of strangers and asked them to evaluate them according to their feelings.
it is found that people generally think highly of people who are more attractive in appearance.
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it is said that a beautiful face is the same and an interesting soul is one in a million.
appearance is given by your parents, but after the age of 30, you practice your own appearance.
Men may not be handsome, but they must be clean. Women may not be beautiful, but they must not be without temperament.
although your temperament is invisible and untouchable, your every move reveals something different.
A person's temperament is not inborn. The books you have read, the roads you have traveled, and the stories you have experienced will be slowly revealed in the polishing of time.
I will give you a hand in the years to come.
respect for talent
there are not many smart people in the world, roughly one in ten, while wise people are even rarer, estimated to be one in a hundred.
it is true that smart people are more popular, but people who are too smart often end up being smart instead of being smart.
two geese made friends with a frog. They decided to go back to the south together, but how to go there became a problem.
the frog had an idea: it let two geese hold a branch, hold it in the middle of the branch with their mouths, and fly up together.
the frogs on the ground clapped their hands with envy and shouted, "who is so smart?"
the frog was afraid of missing the opportunity to express himself, so he said loudly, "this is me."... "
there is a famous saying in Caigen Tan: "the earth is low into the sea, and the low man is king."
the word "low" is not only a good prescription for people, but also the key to dealing with the world.
the world is a flying bird, the eagle is high and the purple swallow is low, the rabbit is petite and the green cow is tall.
everyone has his own ability, so instead of praising the greatness of others, it is better to give yourself more applause.
when your talent can't support your ambition, you should calm down and study.
Smart people like to show their luminous side to the public in order to show their talent, while wise people usually let others show the good side, absorb the truth, goodness and beauty of others, and improve themselves.
the real talent and wisdom is to know how to restrain your edge at the right time, look at yourself with a magnifying glass and look at others with presbyopic glasses.
fit in with character
there are no two identical leaves in this world, and naturally there will not be two people with exactly the same personality.
but the three values are the same, which is the most basic bottom line of communication between people.
birds of a feather flock together.
is not suitable for your own circle, don't force yourself. even if you squeeze in, you will still have a broken head.
Shan Tao and Ji Kang were called the "Seven Sages of Bamboo Forest". At the beginning, they were like-minded friends who talked about everything.
Shan Tao was about to be transferred, so he recommended Ji Kang to take up his position.
but Ji Kang was proud of not being an official all his life, and angrily wrote the famous "letter of severing diplomatic ties with Shan Juyuan" and unilaterally announced that he had severed ties with his friends.
as the saying goes, different ways do not conspire with each other.
the three values are different, no one is right or wrong, but you like the sea, and he loves the forest.
the most comfortable relationship between people is that high mountains and rivers meet bosom friends.
he can understand your happiness, and he will feel sorry for you. Even if there are differences between them, the two sides will discuss them carefully.
it is better to have fun at first sight than never to get tired of it.
when you are with people who share the same values, you have a good life, and others feel comfortable.
longer than goodness
when the sea goes out, countless small fish stay in many bunkers on the beach. There is little water, and the sun will dry when the sun comes out.
A child ran around and threw the fish back into the sea one by one.
when the adult saw this, he laughed and said, "there are so many small fish, where can they be saved? who cares if you do so?"
the child threw it and replied, "this little fish cares!" This little fish also cares. "
people often say, "Don't do anything bad, even if it's inconspicuous, don't give up doing good, even if it's not important."
when we are alive, we cannot ask others how to be human, but at least we can restrain ourselves to be honest and kind-hearted people.
Xunzi said, "benevolence, righteousness, propriety and kindness are to others, and they are like goods, wealth and corn at home."
kindness is human nature and talent, it is beautiful from the heart, but also the code of conduct.
it is kind to give hungry people a full meal, and it is also kind to give a lamp to those who walk alone.
if you give a rose, your hand will smell good. If you throw mud, you will stain your hand first.
what kind of person you are, that's what you attract.
those who love to return, and those who are blessed are blessed.
to be a man, you will not suffer from being kind. Even if you suffer a small loss, there will be great blessings behind you.
kind-hearted people have a clear conscience, sleep soundly every night, people are willing to associate with them, and the road of life will be more and more smooth.
the Master said, "if you want to do something, you should first be holy."
means that when you do something, you should be a man first; only when you do a good job can things be done well.
A person's true wealth is not beauty or money, but character.
character is more important than anything else. It is not only the foundation of a person's career, but also a person's hardest card.
Mr. Ye Shengtao, an educator, said such a thing when educating his children to behave:
A father asked his son to hand him a pen, and the son handed it over casually, not wanting to put the pen in his father's hand.
the father said to his son:
"if you give something to someone, you should think about whether it is convenient for them to receive it.
if you pass the pen over, they will turn it upside down, and if you don't have a pen cap, you will have to get a hand of ink.
this is especially true of items such as knives and scissors. You should never point the edge of the knife at someone else. "
most of the time, the little things we ignore can precisely reflect a person's character.
people with good character emit positive energy all over their bodies and shine wherever they go.
and no matter how smart and capable a person is, if he does not know how to put himself in the shoes of others and his character is bad, then no one will ever have a heart to heart with him.
you can often hear such a sound:
"I am kind to others, and not only do they not appreciate it, but will such a person still treat him as usual?"
in fact, life is like a book. It is good to write about yourself for others to read and to be yourself.
compared with others, it is not good. What is really powerful is that it is better than who you were in the past.
so, read others, might as well be confused, turn a blind eye, and life does not have "delete" and "modify" buttons, just write your own part.
encourage each other.