If you often think about your own mistakes, you can avoid tumbling and taking detours.
reflect on yourself more and blame others less when something happens
the most taboo thing about getting along with others is to be critical of others without looking for reasons from yourself.
before, I saw such a fable.
A fox slipped when he was climbing over the fence. When he was about to fall from the sky, he grabbed a nearby rose and saved his life.
however, although he did not fall, his foot was stabbed by a rose and lost a lot of blood.
looking at his limping leg, the fox was very angry and reprimanded:
"how can you be like this? I ask you for help, but if you don't help me, how can you hurt me instead?"
after hearing this, Rose said with a smile:
Fox, how is this my fault? I have my own thorns, and I stabbed you because you were not careful.
at this point, people can't help laughing at the fox.
but in daily life, don't we do the same stupid thing-when we have conflicts with others, the first reaction is not to reflect on ourselves or meditate on our own mistakes, but to cover up, escape, and evade.
do not realize that this can only make things worse and worse.
for example, when husband and wife quarrel, neither of them will let the other. Even knowing that both sides are wrong, they will unconsciously utter evil words out of self-protection.
when your boss points out your mistakes in your work, someone can easily find many excuses for yourself, such as "colleagues don't cooperate", "I'm unlucky, I'm stuck in traffic" and so on.
in fact, whether it's work or life, don't complain about problems.
everything from their own reasons, more heart to heart, less perfunctory responsibility, so that we can iron out the wrinkles between life and lead a steaming life.
know that everyone is hateful to be critical of others, and lovely to do things with a friendly heart.
know how to introspect so that you can meet a better self
what is the most difficult thing in a person's life?
it is most difficult to know yourself.
it's like our eyes can see everywhere, but can't see our own eyelashes.
and introspection is like "looking in the mirror". It allows us to see our shortcomings clearly and correct them accurately, thus getting better and better.
legendary Steve Jobs is a man who is very good at introspection.
he has a well-known habit of asking himself a question every morning-"if today is the end, will I do what I plan to do today?"
if the answer is "no" for several days in a row, he will immediately change and never waste every day.
but when he was young, he also suffered many setbacks.
many people dare not even take an elevator with him.
coupled with being overconfident in your own technical judgment, you have made a lot of wrong decisions.
but he did not sink because of this. After this crisis, he began to look at himself and look for the reason.
as he said later in his speech at Stanford University, "things are inadequate and wisdom is unknown, and I always reflect on it."
introspection allowed him to transform his current predicament into the process of Phoenix Nirvana.
people will encounter all kinds of failures and tribulations in their lives, some will complain and some will reprimand loudly, but have you ever thought that the problem may lie with ourselves?
so, find the reason for everything from yourself, reflect on yourself, and meditate on your past.
if it's your problem, face it calmly and turn it into an advantage little by little; if it's not your problem, take it as a warning and encourage yourself.
I believe that only through daily introspection and continuous growth can we meet a better self.
successful people cannot do without introspection
there is a saying in Mencius: if you can't do it, you can't do it.
means that when you encounter a failure and have a conflict with others, don't always think about other people's fault or environmental problems, but know how to find the reasons from yourself.
in fact, you should not only reflect on yourself in adversity, but also in your daily life.
introspection is the only way to self-improvement.
only when a person knows how to reflect on himself and reflect on himself can he control his own mind and destiny.
Tao Xingzhi, a well-known educator, once listed "four questions a day" to supervise his daily life:
"have you improved your health?"
"have you made progress in your knowledge?"
"have you made any progress in your work?"
"have you made any progress in your morality?"
and American writer Franklin is also very good at finding problems from himself.
when he was young, he found 13 serious shortcomings, such as wasting time, getting used to arguing with others,Worry about trifles...
if you don't correct it in time, your life will not change.
in order to correct these deficiencies, he specially customized a virtue diary for himself-
write down 13 qualities that need to be improved in a book, compile them into a pamphlet, and then reflect on your words and deeds in front of the pamphlet every night and record them.
in fact, it is not that these people who are praised by everyone will not make mistakes, but that they know how to reflect and correct themselves all the time.
if you often think about your own mistakes, you can avoid tumbling and taking detours.
people who do not reflect on themselves will find a lot of excuses for themselves, and then continue to sink in the status quo, for a long time, do not even know the reasons for failure.
if you ask, don't they expect a different life?
of course not.
but without introspection, it is difficult to understand, and if you do not, it is difficult to change, so you can only turn around in the circle of failure.
there is a long way to go in life, which is not without rugs and twists and turns.
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May we all have the consciousness of "examining ourselves", find reasons for everything from ourselves, and strive to become better people.
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