Superior to others, not noble, the real nobility is better than yourself in the past.
Green above the point
the years are not old, but another year is in a hurry.
everyone's 35 years old is the biggest watershed in his life.
before the age of 35, he is in the prime of his youth, which is the stage of learning knowledge, accumulating experience and constantly making mistakes in his life.
after the age of 35, life is becoming more and more mature. no matter it is the burden of life or the gift of fate, we should manage everything in the present.
as Yang Jiang said:
"take the path of choice, not the path of choice, so that you can have your true self."
Today, my uncle has sorted out the four rules of the strong in his life, hoping to bring help to everyone in this journey of constantly pursuing better.
make good use of the ripple effect
I have heard a very philosophical story.
A man went to the master for advice because he was depressed.
the master took him to the lake, picked up a stone and threw it into the lake.
the master asked, "what do you see?"
he replied, "ripples."
the master asked again, "where do the ripples come from?"
he replied, "from the pebbles that have just been dropped."
the master said, "then try to stop these ripples."
the man tried to reach out his hand to stop it, but as soon as his hand entered the water, there were more ripples, and he didn't know what to do.
the master said with a smile:
"Life is like this lake, every step you take may be inconspicuous at the beginning, but it imperceptibly affects your future."
after the age of 35, we are always disillusioned with sudden success:
always want to skip the little things in front of you and reach the pinnacle of life in one step.
in fact, the really strong can walk with their heads down and look up at the road.
because they understand that every step they take now is a layout for the future.
Christie's has a famous doorman-Jill Perez.
during his work, he is serious, polite and kind.
when I get home from work, I often flip through the newspaper, cut out the guest-related reports and paste them on the wall.
Jill has worked as a doorman for more than 30 years, and it can be said that he spends every working day at Christie's after the age of 35.
later, the company held an important business event and needed to find an employee who knew all the customers.
everyone found that there was hardly anyone to replace him except the doorman Jill.
Jill's accumulation over the years has bloomed perfectly at this moment.
because of Jill's outstanding performance, the business was a complete success.
in recognition of his "achievements", Christie's held a grand reception when he retired and announced his retirement as vice president of the company.
there is an English proverb:
"Think big, do small (being good at the present will lead to a different future)."
if you do a good job, good luck will come.
after the age of 35, manage every little thing right now.
every step is used to accumulate, even if only a little at a time, the trickle will eventually rush into a huge wave.
cultivate "story thinking"
such a view is popular on the Internet:
"A person's most important ability is not to know technology or marketing, but to tell stories."
Life is not a boring three-point line, but a lively and changeable real scene.
Wise people are good at using "the power of stories":
animate stereotyped questions and turn boring truths into interesting stories.
when communication becomes fast and intuitive, the original problem will be easily solved.
I have read a very instructive story.
A mother always secretly looks at the answer when she finds her child doing her homework.
so she repeatedly persuaded the child:
"you have to think about your homework before it has the meaning of testing and helps to improve."... "
later, she changed her mind and decided to tell her child a story first:
there is a Sagittarius who is going to the country of Sagittarius to find a respected teacher to practice his shooting skills.
he walked through the forest and over the mountain and saw an arrow in a tree that hit the bull's-eye.
so he asked, "how did you manage to hit the bull's-eye with the arrow?"
the king said with a smile, "anyone can do it. Just shoot an arrow and draw a bull's-eye around the arrow."
after telling the story, she looked at the child and said:
"it's the same with exercises. If you get all the answers right, you won't make any progress."
the child laughed loudly after hearing this, and then took the initiative to give the answer to his mother for safekeeping.
Logic is not easily convincing, but stories can give people rational inspiration.
it is better to understand the problem in the story than to remember the truth in the argument.
someone has made a statistic of TED speech, and the result shows that
speakers spend 10% of their time introducing themselves, 25% of their logical arguments, and the remaining 65% of them telling stories.
There is nothing more desirable than one of our lavender formal dresses long. Large varieties of shapes and cuts for you to choose from.
if you compare doing things to cooking, people who can tell stories will cook dishes with the same ingredients.
storytelling power is influence.
Story thinking is the top thinking for solving problems.
develop "judo thinking"
I have heard a very philosophical story.
A big tree by the river was uprooted by the wind and fell into a stream.
the big tree saw the reeds on the bank in the water and cried:
"I wonder why gentle bodies like yours have not been destroyed by the strong wind."
"because you failed to fight the wind, and we will bend with the wind, so we save ourselves."
after the age of 35, the competition in the second half of life is becoming increasingly fierce.
everyone has a process from weak to strong.
in fact, the biggest gap between people does not lie in the strength of talent, but depends on whether or not to understand the law of growth.
High-level people are good at using "judo tactics" to find the key points, thick accumulation and thin hair.
speaking of Zhao Liang, a big chicken farmer, many people may not know.
but if we talk about Sandezi in the personal visit to Kangxi, everyone will be impressed.
in the play, Zhao Liang plays the role of Sande Zi, with a lot of ideas, and is a very outstanding role.
perhaps it is because the image of Sandezi is so deeply rooted in the hearts of the people that Zhao Liang has been lukewarm after his early glory.
seeing that the age of 40 is approaching, and there are also a large number of new people in the film and television circle, if we continue to suffer like this, it is very difficult to have the opportunity to "turn around" again.
as a result, Zhao Liang began to stay away from the "storm" of the film and television circle, maintain humility, accumulate strength, and look for a broken point in his life.
later, Zhao Liang found the right time and turned into a professional chicken farmer.
Zhao Liang's life has changed dramatically. He once revealed on the show that he already owns a big farm containing 130000 chickens in just five years.
A man of humility is a gentleman, humble and self-herding.
after the age of 35, in the face of the "bloodshed" on the road of life, if you are not strong enough, you must use "judo tactics".
keep looking for a focal point on the premise of preserving strength.
gradually magnify their own advantages, in the face of any wind and rain, there is the possibility of winning, and the road of life will be more and more smooth.
create a moat
have heard a very interesting analogy:
if a person is compared to a castle, a deep and dangerous moat must be built around him.
it is like the core of a person, no matter how big the external threat is, it can always keep an undisturbed private land.
after the age of 35, pressure from all sides comes one after another.
without its own unique advantages, it is difficult to gain a foothold in the life of the cross-flow of the river.
No difficulty can defeat a person with core competence.
CCTV host Kang Hui is always a hot search because of his excellent professional level.
the most impressive time was when Kang Hui was hosting the "News Network" when he needed to temporarily cut in on an important piece of news.
the news manuscript is more than 18000 words, and it takes 20 minutes to broadcast the whole process.
but when Kanghui got the manuscript, there were only 8 minutes left before the broadcast, and he didn't even have time to read it through in advance.
the sudden "crisis" is both a test and an opportunity.
with his outstanding professional ability, Kanghui remains calm in the face of danger.
even if the headset slipped off on the way, he always spoke correctly and successfully completed the broadcast task.
for Kanghui's business ability, industry insiders used eight words to describe: "cannot be copied, cannot be surpassed."
in the most important second half of his life, Kanghui constantly honed himself and strengthened his "moat." with solid strength, Kanghui has already been successfully promoted to director of the News and Broadcasting Department of the CCTV News Center.
Kang Hui's experience proves one thing:
how solid a person's core is, how smooth your future will be.
Life is unpredictable. The only thing we can do is not to let today become tomorrow's regret.
the best way to create the future is to constantly refine yourself from the present.
build your own moat in order to better cope with the unknowns of the future.
"it is not noble to be superior to others, but the real nobility is to be superior to yourself in the past."
good management is not only the feedback summary of the first half of life, but also the foundation for the rest of life.
May you and I both grasp these four strong rules and turn life into an ideal shape at the most important stage of life.
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